I just did something unexpected on FB. I went through my list of Friends and changed my preferences—adding back Friends to my Home Newsfeed, or whatever it’s called. I added back the Friends who post a lot of pregnancy/baby/fun-family-life photos. Somewhere along this unexpected trip—perhaps it was between my 3rd and 4th miscarriage? Or 4th and 5th? So many miscarriages to choose from!—I went in there and changed my preferences so that those happily family’ed did not appear in my feed, with the hopes that it would relieve some of the relentless pain I was feeling at the time. I think it did relieve me of some pain—but it also contributed to my isolation.

I haven’t really thought about this in a while. I have just gotten used to seeing a collection of random friends, many of whom I’m not close to, in my newsfeed:  Those who are much younger than me (no baby yet); those I don’t know well (and therefore their happy-baby-family photos didn’t sting); or those who have no children. I became increasingly distant from FB most likely because I was seeing the updates of only random, marginal connections, and because I did not feel inspired to post (childless) photos of my own.

I have a sort of love-hate relationship with FB in general, but it did feel healthy to virtually reconnect with the family’ed. It did feel freeing to poke around the photos of the mamas & papas & babies & toddlers & primary-school kids & teenagers going to prom (yes, some of my high school friends have kids who are old enough to go to prom).

I wonder what it will feel like, in the coming days, to open myself back up inside Facebooklandia. Have the wounds healed over so well that all will slip-slide off my brand-new smooth pink skin? We’ll see.


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    Me: 41
    DH: 38

    Fertility issue:
    Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
    6 pregnancy losses
    All early
    5 with my own eggs
    1 with donor egg

    Abnormal embryos

    Factor V Leiden heterozygous
    MTHFR heterozygous

    AFC: 2 - 12
    AMH: 0.2
    FSH: 6.8
    E2: 40
    LH: 2.8


    April 2011 -
    Natural conception, first try. Blighted ovum (gestational sac only). D&C to remove products of conception at 9 weeks.

    Oct 2011 -
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    Winter 2012 -
    Two rounds of Femara/Clomid + IUIs at Columbia and RS of NY. The idea: to produce more eggs and increase chances of catching a good one. BFNs.

    April 2012 -
    Natural conception, first try. Ultrasound showed activity in the uterus, but no complete sac. Diagnosed with "missed abortion." Natural miscarriage at 5 weeks.

    June 2012 -
    Conception after 7 mg Femara for 5 days + IUI. Diagnosed with chemical pregnancy. Natural miscarriage at 4.5 weeks.

    August 2012 -
    Natural conception, without trying. Chemical pregnancy and natural miscarriage at 5 weeks.

    October 2012 -
    ODWU at Colorado Center for Reproductive Medicine (CCRM).

    January 2013 -
    IVF with Dr. Schoolcraft.
    Straight Antagonist protocol

    What he predicted:
    I will produce 11 eggs
    Good chance 1 will be normal
    30% chance 2 will be normal
    Transfer 1, then a 45% chance of success
    Transfer 2, then a 65% chance of success

    What happened:
    7 follicles stimulated
    6 mature eggs retrieved
    2 died during ICSI
    4 fertilized
    3 out of 4 embryos CCS-tested
    All abnormal

    Aug/Sept 2013-
    Frozen Donor Egg IVF at Reproductive Biology Associates (RBA)
    What Dr. Shapiro predicted:
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    1 we will transfer
    1 - 3 we will freeze

    Protocol: Lupron, Vivelle patches, Crinone

    8 frozen eggs from donor thawed
    6 fertilized
    1 Day-5 Grade A XBbb blastocyst transferred
    1 Day-5 Grade A EBbb blastocyst frozen
    1 Day-6 Grade A XBbb blastocyst frozen

    September 13, 2013: Pregnant

    Prenatal vitamins & baby aspirin,
    Vivelle patches & Crinone

    Beta #1: 171
    Beta #2: 706
    Beta #3: 7,437

    6 w 3 d: measured 6 w 1 d
    FHR: 80 bpm
    Fetus did not grow
    7 w: FHR 121 bpm
    8 w: heart stopped
    9 w: D and C

    Test results: We lost a normal karyotype male for unexplained reasons

    Quit stressful job
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    March 14, 2014:
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    1 Day-5 Grade A EBbb blastocyst
    1 Day-6 Grade A XBbb blastocyst

    March 24, 2014:

    Prenatals, baby aspirin, Folgard, Vivelle, Crinone, Lovenox

    Beta #1: 295
    Beta #2: 942
    Beta #3: 12,153

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    Fetal heart rate:
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    Due date: Dec, 4 2014!

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    Folgard 2.2

    Born: One perfect baby boy 12.4.14

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